The Evil Stepmother Speaks
Are You a Stepmother Who Blames Everyone Else? Do you find yourself blaming others for your life situation? See if any of these 'stepmother' statements strike a chord with you: “These kids are a nightmare because their mother and father don’t discipline them. It is their fault. Our marriage is a nightmare because the ex tortures us. It is her fault. I cook, clean, transport and pay the
Stepmothers Feel Like a Piece of Raw Meat Stepmothers, were you shocked to find that you have been 'left out to dry?" If you have ever felt this way, this blog is for you: “No one seems to care about what I feel. I planned this beautiful event and the stepkids did not come. Yet, they went to their mother’s event. I do all of this work, but no one seems to notice. I’m taken for
Stepfamiles and Life Are All About the Playground It's the end of the year. There have been holidays, custody changes, vacations and aggravations. There have also been feelings of extreme joy. Some of us have received notes of love and appreciation from our stepchildren and/or our partners. Some of us feel peace in the knowing that we are making a home base for our children. For some, we still
Has the Divorce caused a Raw, Exposed Nerve?All Will Heal Did you ever wonder why the ex-wife just can't get over it? Maybe, you are a stepmother who has been a part of the family for years, yet you still feel as though the ex-wife hates you. You just don't understand it. As you know, we study the art and science of stepfamily management here at The Evil Stepmother Speaks. This blog
Who is that Stepmother Woman? It is easy to think of the stepmother as that woman your ex partner married. If the stepmother is just that woman who is in the house, it lessens the pain of the divorce and the consequences that failed relationship has brought. After all, the worst part of a divorce is the consequences wrought upon the children. As the children begin their journey between
Stepmothers and MothersAre We Like the Mean Girls in High School?We Should Know Better! Have you ever felt as if your stepfamily life mirrored your high school years? Girls talking about one another? Never feeling as if you were good enought? Pretty enough? Smart enough? (Sounds like the SNL character Stuart Smalley) Life in high school was stressful. It was like you were
Stepmothers Have a Tremendous Effect on Their Stepchildren via The Pygmalion Effect Is that true? Is there nothing that you can do to affect your stepchildren’s life? If you feel powerless, I want to remind you of The Pygmalion Effect. The Pygmalion Effect is a scientifically proven phenomenon whereby the greater the expectation placed upon people the better they perform. Another way to look
Anne Taintor's Images Encapsulate the Ultimate Passive Aggressive Behavior. Big Smiles. Their Thoughts are In the Words. We love Anne Taintor! Passive aggressiveness runs rampant in our stepfamilies. I hypothesize that there is a minimum of one family member who exhibits these behaviors. Are you one of the passive aggressive family members? Or, are you living with passive aggressive
Stepmoms and the Ex: Does familiarity breed contempt?Picture by Anne Taintor I’m bringing bitchy back Them other girls don’t know how to act Sometimes I think that stepmothers and ex-wives should have a t shirt that says, “We’re Bringing Bitchy Back”. Maybe, I should create a rap video of the same name. Let’s face it. Many of us act really bitchy towards the ex-wife or
There are a thousand situations, but I thought it may be nice to have a cheat sheet for just a couple of the more common situations. It's a start! Let's face it. There are rules for sports. Rules at work. Rules at school What about rules for the stepfamily. As I always say, "Stepfamilies are not for the faint of heart". It would sure be easier if we could make a list of rules. Here