An Homage to Our Heroes: LeAnn Rimes and Brandi Glanville Help the Stepmom

LeeAnn and Brandi May Be the Stepfamily Heroes

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I watched The View last Friday.  One of their lead stories was about Brandi Glanville, first wife and bio mom to the children of Eddie Cibrian, the actor.  Eddie is now married to singer, LeAnn Rimes.  In an article in Australia’s NW HQ magazine, Brandi describes the first time she saw LeAnn and her ex-husband at her son’s soccer game.  She said the following:

“My blood was boiling, and I thought I was going to kill her. I really thought I was going to physically hurt her.

“But that was the first time I saw her that way — she was sitting in my soccer chair, under my tent, she’s got my kid on her lap and she’s with my husband, and that was that little moment of total irrational fury.”

Of course, the press has picked up on the “kill her” quote and that is what the ladies of The View were discussing.  As all of us stepmoms know, society loves to focus on the two women.  We are back in fairy tale land where the bio mom hates the stepmom.  Of course, the stepmom is horrible and evil.  This story brings all of us back to our childhoods and will always garner an audience.  It is a theme that goes on in infamy.  But, what if the  Glanville-Cibrian family end up sparking a change in the perception of all of our stepfamilies?

First, there is bio-mom, Brandi.  Her quote, above, was honest.  Frankly, aren’t her feelings normal?  Aren’t these the things that the rest of us say to our best girlfriends?  Aren’t these the feelings that feed the bad behavior that many bio moms serve to the stepmoms?  At least, Brandi is putting it out there for discussion.  The media never focused on Brandi’s next statement.  She said about Lianne, “We’re never going to be best friends, but she’s good to my kids, they love her and that’s all I could ask for.”  She continues to say that her kids are the most important thing to her.  Sounds like Brandi is learning the meaning of true love.  Every time you hear the expression, “Divorce is hard or parenting is hard”, this is what they are talking about.  Sometimes, you gotta stretch to love.  It’s a good thing.

Meanwhile, the kids love their stepmom, LeAnn.  LeAnn learned to love, too.  It’s a good, kind thing.  What gets lost in the story is any mention of Lianne’s talent and career.  Rimes has won  two Grammys, three ACMs, a CMA,  12 Billboard Music Awards, and one American Music award.  She has sold over 37 million records worldwide, with 20.3 million album sales in the United States.She has also written four books, two novels and two children’s books. I wonder what she could teach her stepchildren?  It’s a good thing.

By the way, Brandi has had a fascinating career as well.  She lived in Europe and had a long career in modeling and fashion.  She has worked for design houses like Chanel and Gucci, while appearing in Glamour and Cosmopolitan magazines.  She is currently writing a book.  Sounds like the kids will have expert exposure to all aspects of the arts:  fashion, art, music and writing.  It’s a good thing.

I know what many of you are thinking.  You want me to talk about the issues surrounding the initial divorce.  Sorry.  Right now, the family is a blended one and that is the children’s reality and their life.  That is what is important. By the way, the discussion on The View included talk about how lovely it was that another woman could love your children.  That is a good thing.

Life is ironic.  You learn life’s lessons when you don’t comprehend what is happening.  Life’s heroes appear where you least expect to find them.  I attest that LeAnn Rimes and Brandi Glanville will go down in history as being agents of change for our stepfamilies. As the press continues to hound them and write about their “conflict”, they will continue to open the topic of blended families to the world.  In the end, they will show the world that there is enough love to go around.