• I saw this image on the new Getty Images for Free site.  As soon as I saw it, I thought 'this is how I feel sometimes'. I, along with my sister stepmoms, feel as if we are on the outside looking in. No matter how hard we knock on the glass, we can't penetrate it.  Then, we feel as if we are swimming around and around and around in circles.  Same issues.  Same behaviors. Same thoughts in our

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    When Will Stepmothers Get Their Justice? When will I get justice?  Have you ever thought about justice?  I know that I have. Does any of this sound familiar? "I do all of this work.  When will someone thank me?" " I am always the one picking up the pieces.  Yet, I never get asked.  It's just assumed I'll watch the kids or cook the meals." "I am everyone's doormat." "IT'S JUST UNFAIR!

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    What If There Was a Beautiful Stepfamily and You Couldn't See It? They say that the definition of stupidity is doing the same things over and over and expecting a different result.  If we were to be honest with ourselves, do we do the same things?  Do we avoid the hard work associated with change?  Do we want to avoid any vulnerability to our stepfamily members? Do we just want things to be

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    Starbucks is More Than a Cup of Coffee.What Do You Stand For? Have you ever thought about what is truly galvanizing you towards your life's legacy?  I was moved to think about this question as I watched Oprah interview Howard Schultz, CEO of Starbucks.  Starbucks provides an aggressive benefits package for its employees that work 20 hours or more per week.  How great is that?  (As a side

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    What if Stepmothers Chose Peaceful Disobedience? At the time of this writing, it is the day of Nelson Mandela’s funeral.  Nelson Mandela was the past president of South Africa and is credited with bringing the end of apartheid to that country.  Mr. Mandela spent 27 years in prison.  He entered prison at the age of 44 and was released when he was 71 years old.  He fought tirelessly for

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    Does One plus One = Two in a Stepfamily? Stepfamily Math I always thought that we could tell our stepfamily's story by using mathematical symbols. By using mathematical symbols, we can see our story a different way.  See if you can interpret the story. BM + DH = SK SK = SD + SS DH - BM = Divorce Divorce = (DH + SK) + (BM + SK) DH + SK = 1 BM + SK = 1 SM = Nice person DH + SM = 1 DH

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