• The Evil Stepmother Blog

  • Stepmoms Feel Like They Have The Devil On One Shoulder and the Angel On The Other The angel and the devil sits on the shoulders of all stepmoms.  You know what I mean.  Mother's Day is a perfect example.  The angel on my right shoulder says: "I don't want to cause any conflicts.  I want the kids to spend time with their mother. This is my main concern." The devil on my left shoulder whispers the following: "I work really hard.  After all I have done for those kids, the least they can do is spend some time with me on Mother's Day.  I deserve to be recognized!" The conflicted feelings make me just hate Mother's Day.  But, then I think, "Hey!  Just like everything else about my life as a stepmother, Mother's Day makes me face a core human need:  Seen, Heard, Mattered."  At the end of the day, isn't that what we all want?  We want to know that we mattered.  We want to be heard.  Since Mother's Day is a day of recognition, it brings those core needs to the

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  • Stepfamilies Are Awesome! Happy Stepfamily Day! If you are lucky enough to have a stepparent, a step-sibling and step-relatives, September 16th is your day.  It is National Stepfamily Day.  The purpose of this day is to recognize stepfamilies by taking a minute and recognizing the love, care and support the step-relatives provide.  It is the day for us to remember how lucky we are to

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    The Stepfamily MantraAhh! My Dad Married the Evil Stepmother! Run! Has your stepfamily ever told you that they are afraid of you?  Don't be surprised if they are terrified.  Yes, I said 'terrified'.  No one will tell you that they are scared.  In fact, they may act as if they tower over you and give you the impression that you are powerless.  Have you seen this type of behavior by your

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    The Very Involved Stepparent May Be a Pain!www.AnneTaintor.com I just realized that I have been a pain in the ass.  It hit me like a lightning bolt.  Let me explain my thinking. When I became a stepmother, I jumped in with two feet.  I was so excited to be related to my stepchildren.  I loved being part of their lives.  I also felt as if I might have something to offer them.  I had no

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    You Are One in a Million!Happy Mother's Day!from: Greeting Card Universe It is that dreaded time of year for stepmothers everywhere, Mother’s Day.  The emotional turmoil and quiet confusion starts several weeks before the holiday and culminates in a litany of rationalizations right up until that dire Sunday.  It is reasonable that children spend Mother’s Day with their mother.  For

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    Drop Anchors, Not BombsFind This Image and T Shirt on The Beat Box sitehttp://www.thebeat-box.com/2012/05/ahoy-obey-clothing-drops-anchors.html When you live in a remarried home, there are tons of moving parts.  Kids are going back and forth.  We are working.  Relationships go up and down.  Emotions swirl around our heads 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.  Much like the waves of the ocean can

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    Stepmothers and Mothers Are Human Beings with Basic Human Needs I always wanted to tape  a frank conversation between a stepmother and a Mother.  I always had this theory that if we could hear each other, we may think differently about the way we think, act and speak.  I am anxious to hear your feedback on the conversation. This is a personal conversation between me and a friend of

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    Life Can Change in a Hartbeat aka #BostonMaraton2013 Today, April 15, 2013, will be remembered as the day that we will never feel completely safe when we participate in a marathon or other big community events.  All we know as of the writing of this blog is that two bombs went off at the finish line of the Boston Marathon.  At last count, there were 3 dead and over 138+ injured.  We know

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    Are Stepmothers and Mothers Sharing Their Stepchildren? Ever since the last economic downturn, people have become entrepreneurial about how they live and work.  The biggest change has been the new Sharing Economy.  The sharing economy is one where we share each other's resources with each other either freely or cheaply.  As a matter of fact, I am a member of a barter group.  This group

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    Lean In? Stepmoms Feel as if We Have Leaned Over! Lean in.  It is the latest phrase to encourage women to be more professionally aggressive, fact-based and take more risks in the workplace.  The term has been coined by Sheryl Sandberg, Chief Operating Officer at Facebook, released her book, Lean In:  Women, Work and the Will to Lead.  If you were to ask a stepmother if they need to lean in

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