The Evil Stepmother Speaks
There is So Much Love Available to All of the Children in a Stepfamily! I got divorced when my son was an infant. In the very beginning, I didn't hear from my ex's family. Understandable. Through the creative love of a family member (Read my blog, The Best Book Ever Written), I reconnected with my in-laws and a love affair ensued between them and my son. My son proceeded to visit them
The Children Suffer When The Stepmother Disrespects Their Mother Never do this. Period. The current Mrs. Kelsey Grammer, Kayte Grammer) dressed up as the ex Mrs. Kelsey Grammer for Halloween. Thanks! This is just the type of public relations all of us stepmothers need. Damn! Hey, Kelsey and Kayte, your costumes are not funny and shows such disrespect that I barely know where to
Mothers and Stepmothers Always Feel As If They Know What Is Best It makes sense that the ex-spouse would want to talk to her children's stepmother at one time or another. How you handle this conversation is critical and can be challenging. Let's set the scenario. Let's assume that your family has a somewhat 'typical' scenario where the kids come every other weekend or so and have some
Stepmothers Often Feel Like the Fifth Wheel! Or, Even the Third Wheel Have you ever felt like a 5th wheel in your family? I certainly have! I have been a stepmother for over 20 years and I still have those moments. You know what I'm talking about. There is a family party and you feel as if you don't belong. There is a family life cycle event and you feel like you don't know where you
Stepmothers! Never Shame the Parent as You Will Shame the Child If I were forced to give one piece of stepmother advice, this would be it: Shame the Parent, Shame the Child. It means no bad mouthing of bio parents. Bad mouthing means to say bad things about another or to criticize another. It means no making faces when bio parents' names are said. It means no eye rolling. No
When the Stepmother Becomes Peace, The Family Finds Space to BreatheImage from Maylou Falstreau One day her desire for peace became so great, she became peace. I think I'll write that one again: ONE DAY HER DESIRE FOR PEACE BECAME SO GREAT, SHE BECAME PEACE. The artist and poet Mary Falstreau wrote this lovely sentiment. The true meaning behind this thought and her artwork hold the
Stepmothers: There is Light at The End of the Stepfamily Tunnel Even though you don't want to be "that" evil stepmother, you find yourself still hating the ex-wife. You are convinced that she hates you. You think she does anything in her power to disrupt your life. You also have thoughts about the stepchildren and often think that they are sabotaging you. You've listened to some of my
Should Stepmothers Listen In On Conversations Between the Bio-Parents? Do you listen in on the conversations between your spouse and their ex? It's a normal thing to do, right? Bio parents need to talk fairly often. Child management takes coordination and discussion. So, the phone rings and you happen to be sitting in the room. Your partner answers. It is his/her ex. Next thing
Talking about the Ex?Thanks to www.AnneTaintor.com for the image Do you talk about the ex? How often do you and your partner discuss the ex? Be honest. How much of your thinking day is focused on this subject? If you don't know, I challenge you to carry a notebook and make a slash mark every time you talk about the ex. You may be shocked at how much energy and time you spend
Stepmom Advice: Should the Stepmom and Mom be Girlfriends? Stepmom Advice: The Gift of the Girlfriend I would not have been able to survive in my life without my girlfriends. Period. One of the best stepmom advice is to treasure your girlfriends. Their silence and their gift of listening is a powerful tool for your stepmom toolbox. Our girlfriends are our place to vent. Their trust is