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Stepmoms Feel Like They Have The Devil On One Shoulder and the Angel On The Other The angel and the devil sits on the shoulders of all stepmoms. You know what I mean. Mother's Day is a perfect example. The angel on my right shoulder says: "I don't want to cause any conflicts. I want the kids to spend time with their mother. This is my main concern." The devil on my left shoulder whispers the following: "I work really hard. After all I have done for those kids, the least they can do is spend some time with me on Mother's Day. I deserve to be recognized!" The conflicted feelings make me just hate Mother's Day. But, then I think, "Hey! Just like everything else about my life as a stepmother, Mother's Day makes me face a core human need: Seen, Heard, Mattered." At the end of the day, isn't that what we all want? We want to know that we mattered. We want to be heard. Since Mother's Day is a day of recognition, it brings those core needs to the
You Spot It, You Got It If you have ever talked about the 'other woman', like the ex-wife or the second or third wife, this blog is for you. Truth be told, does your discussions about the other woman roll easily off your tongue? Are you honest enough to admit that it is fun to talk about the other woman and say mean things? Are your friends eager to participate and offer loyal, nasty
Stepmom Love As many of you know, I am a #MarthaBeck life coach. Dr. Beck calls all of her coaches, the tribe. Somehow, all of us know that we are part of a tribe and that we belong there. We belong together because we are of like mind. We don't go around talking about what connects us. We just know. I started thinking about our Stepmom Tribe. We have one, you know. I can feel
Are We Entering a Kinder World? A great parental moment happened yesterday. Did you see the op ed piece in the New York Times? It was a piece written by Greg Smith called Why I Left Goldman Sachs. After working at Goldman Sachs for 12 years, Mr. Smith explains why he has decided to leave the firm. He said, "To put the problem in the simplest terms, the interests of the client continue
Stepmoms! Has Our Time Come? Enough is enough. By now, you have heard the story about #SusanFluke, a third year Georgetown University law student who testified before Congress. Ms. Fluke was in favor of health plans paying for contraception medication, especially because they are used to treat medical conditions, not just for contraception. #RushLimbaugh responded with a 3-day rant
Stepmoms Should Hear No Evil When I married Bruce, it was the second marriage for both of us. With divorce comes stories. Tell me if I'm wrong, but I think a lot of us divorcees like to tell our stories. Over and over and over. It comes with the territory. Early on, I decided that Bruce should keep his divorce and I should keep mine. In other words, those relationships should remain
Stepmoms-Find the Keys to Your Lucky Life! Today is your lucky day, Stepmoms! Welcome Susan Hyatt, Author of Create Your Own Luck, 7 Steps to Get Your Lucky On! Susan is a Master Certified Life Coach, published author, audience-shifter, luck accelerator + multi-passionate mentor for your body, your business and your life. She helps men + women who’ve lost their sense of play and
Can a Wise Chinese Man like Lao Tzu Teach Us About Ourselves? No one is going to read this blog and I know it. What the h--- is more boring than reading an ancient Chinese text called The #Tao de Ching? Not only am I writing this blog, I actually did a show on The #Tao on The Stepmom Toolbox Show http://bit.ly/Agubc0 I don't think anyone will listen to that one either. What I should
On today's Stepmom Toolbox Show, The Evil Stepmother Speaks, Barb Goldberg, teaches a quick lesson on some of the core teachings of the Tao. What????? What does this have to do with being a stepmom??? Actually, it has alot to do with it. The Tao de Ching, written by Lao Tzu, is considered one of the most powerful books ever written. Only 81 verses, it is chock full of wisdom. Barb is not a
Stepmoms: Like in Nature, Let's Bond in Our Own Time #Happy Valentine's Day! I always feel pressured to do something on these holidays. Frankly, it can be annoying. (Bah! Humbug!) I think I just don't like being forced to do something. Is there anyone else that feels this way? In that same vein, I often hear from stepmoms that they feel pressured to love their stepchildren. Just
Stepmom's Lament: Are We Loved? It's funny to me how all of us think alike. "It will get better" is a common lament that I hear stepmoms say, especially in the earlier years. Then, as the years go by and there are still family issues, this deep sense of disappointment sets in. Perhaps you have said it to yourself. "After all that I have done for them, they still treat me