• The Evil Stepmother Blog

  • Stepmoms Feel Like They Have The Devil On One Shoulder and the Angel On The Other The angel and the devil sits on the shoulders of all stepmoms.  You know what I mean.  Mother's Day is a perfect example.  The angel on my right shoulder says: "I don't want to cause any conflicts.  I want the kids to spend time with their mother. This is my main concern." The devil on my left shoulder whispers the following: "I work really hard.  After all I have done for those kids, the least they can do is spend some time with me on Mother's Day.  I deserve to be recognized!" The conflicted feelings make me just hate Mother's Day.  But, then I think, "Hey!  Just like everything else about my life as a stepmother, Mother's Day makes me face a core human need:  Seen, Heard, Mattered."  At the end of the day, isn't that what we all want?  We want to know that we mattered.  We want to be heard.  Since Mother's Day is a day of recognition, it brings those core needs to the

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  • Listen in as we dish merging households with Erin and some damn good Martha Beck wisdom from Martha Beck trained life coach Barb Goldberg! Please join me and my guesst Erin Elizabeth Wells, of Living Peace, and Barb Goldberg of The Evil Stepmom Speaks as we dish merging households, blended families, and Martha Beck! Listen to internet radio with Stepmoms Toolbox on Blog Talk Radio

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    If you ever plan to motor west Travel my way, the highway that's the best. Get your kicks on Route 66! Song by Bobby Troup   I had the most amazing experience while travelling on Route 66.  Route 66 is the historic United States highway that stretches from Chicago to Los Angeles.  Established in 1926, the road is peppered with charming shops and restaurants that reclaim its

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    In 4th grade, my son got the assignment to draw his family tree.  As a member of a blended family, this assignment was just daunting!  Not only do you have to draw the tree (good luck), but then you have to get in front of the class and explain it.  Oh, no!  Often, the assignment will include dates and pictures of your relatives.  Great!  In our case, bio Dad disappeared years ago and my son

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    What if all step moms were automatically eligible for a medical marijuana prescription?   A simple act like this could save American society as we know it. Remember the best selling book Freakonomics by Steven Levitt and Stephen J. Dubner?  Freakonomics is the study of how incentives actually have shaped our economies and societies.  In other words, it is the hidden side of human behavior. 

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    Oh, if only Steve Jobs had invented ICloud during my children’s younger years! ICloud is a new product from Apple that will be introduced in the fall, 2011.  ICloud stores all of your digital content and pushes it, wirelessly, to all of your devices.  ICloud stores your written materials, photos, music, books, mail, calendars and any other special applications that you have chosen.  All of

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    Maria Shriver and Martha Beck wore T-shirts while shopping. Maria’s shirt said: “Change the world with courage, wisdom and strength” while Martha’s shirt said: “Karma”. Clearly, their shirts were speaking for them. If I am a betting man, I expect to see other celebrities expressing their feelings on T-shirts. For my family, we have been expressing our thoughts on T-shirts for

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    I truly feel that I am in denial that the Oprah Show is over. It has been such a big part of my daily routine via TIVO. I tried to think about how much I have learned, but I am probably not aware of how much that has been. It has made me wonder if I would have been able to stay married or handled my life as a step mom. I wonder if I could have been as good of a friend or if I would have been

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    Do you think that when a woman is deeply hurt the rest of us feel the pain? Are we all connected energetically? If so, that would explain the pain that I feel for Maria Shriver. It makes my heart pound every time that I hear the news describing how Arnold Schwarzenegger cheated on his wife. The story describing how he fathered a child, at the same time that Maria was pregnant is terrifying to

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    Sarah Ferguson, Duchess of York, visited with Oprah this week. She is participating in a docu-drama about her life and her ‘fall’ (Is it a fall?) from Royal family to everyday folk. Sarah talked about many issues in her life, but I was struck by her comments about her Mom. She said that her Mom left her when she was 12 years old and left the family for a polo player. This one piece of her

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    Where should I start??? Paul McCartney, age 68, announced his engagement to Nancy Shevell, age 51. This will be Sir Paul’s third marriage after being married 30 years to Linda Eastman and a tumultuous, 6-year marriage to Heather Mills. Heather and McCartney have one child, Beatrice, together. So, now, Nancy is facing being the step mom to a 5 year-old daughter and sharing custody with

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